What Women Really Want: 10 Traits That A Man Should Have

It's finally the weekends!! TGIF!

I am so glad that my 2 previous posts on relationships were so well received by my readers..

Thank you for reading them, & it really means a lot to me.

Of course, *disclaimer* I do not think of myself as a relationship guru or anything of that sort.

I just want to share my two cents worth, & also try out a different genre with regards to content!

Therefore, I decide to do an article related to relationships & the opposite sex,

once a week if possible.

I hope you guys will enjoy reading them, and feel free to leave me your feedback!

What do Women really want?

I guess all men are puzzled by this question..

Cliché as the saying goes,

"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".

I guess the saying really just means that we are built differently right from the start of time.

Whether it is our bodies, our emotional capacity, how our brains function & perceive things differently...

So, how do we understand the opposite sex?

Is it really through time & effort that we are able to understand our partner,

or the general female population?

I guess all I can say is that, women are generally the same in certain aspects.

HOWEVER, since NOBODY is exactly the same,

my content does not capture the entire female population & what they think.

So, read with an OPEN MIND.

1. A GOOD HEART

I guess what I meant by "A Good Heart", is just a summary of traits.

Kind, Caring, Compassionate, Sincere.

Women all want a man who can be our best friend, our soul mate, our listening ear.
We don't really deal well with stress or emotional issues whether at work or at home,

therefore we do need you to hear our problems out.

And just well, let us off load some weight that were on our shoulders.

A little compassion for the old, sick, elderly, poor, or even compassion to animals would really add a brownie point or two, to your score.

2. HONESTY- NOT TOO MUCH OF IT

Women all want to know the truth.

But most of the time, we can't handle the truth.

& guess what. we do know that.

But why do we want honesty?

I guess women just don't want to be lied to about important matters.

She wants to be involved, and be informed of the things happening around her man,

be it unpleasant or pleasant experiences & memories.

Also she just doesn't want him to think that he has to lie..

Because when he does, it usually means he is doing something wrong or making poor choices.

However,

Brutal honesty is not wanted.

This is as far as honesty should go..

If she asks you if she looks good in a new outfit, thread lightly.

Compliment the good positive points, and skim the negative parts gently.

Probably suggesting a better outfit choice that you think she looks good in will allow you to escape, unharmed.

& if she asks if she is fat or has gained weight..

Always compliment her first, & tell her that you love her for who she is.

Also, suggest to her that if she is really concerned, you two could hit the gym together.

What's better than some quality time spent at the gym?
It is an opportunity to bring you two closer together, and looking good together,

with each others' motivation!

3. BRAINS

Intelligence is sexy.

No, I am not talking about technology terms, or boring scientific facts etc.

I am talking about being able to converse and engage in an intellectual conversation.

It could be a funny scientific fact, or the latest news etc.

Women love to learn.

We take pride in learning something new everyday.

& we just find it sexy if our guy is smarter than us!

Look, men love good looking women.
But dumb ones do get on their nerves sometimes.

It is the same for women.

Superficial looks will fade with time, but the brains that the man have will not.

4. SENSE OF HUMOUR (NOT LAMENESS)

Being funny draws a woman to a man, same goes for the man too actually.

Women have always loved a man with a good sense of humour & wit.

If you can make your woman laugh, you have already won more than half the battle.

Or her heart, for that case.

But beware, some men do not get the difference between being humorous & just being plain lame.

We do not enjoy crude jokes, or the kind of jokes that you and your bros/boys will joke about.

A simple sense of humour, with wit & intelligence, will blow our minds away.

5. CONFIDENCE (NOT OVER CONFIDENCE)

Women usually struggle with confidence issues as we are thrown in a realistic world of supermodels.

However, we do love a man who is confident about himself and his body.

When a man is confident, his actions show it, and we are naturally drawn to it.

Think about it.

Why do good looking jerks or even average looking jerks get the girls most of the time.

It is not entirely about the good looks, or even the bad boy image.

It is also about the confidence they exude.

They know what they want, and how they can achieve it.

That kind of confidence always makes a girl swoon.

Be confident, & be who you are.

HOWEVER, over confidence is a total turn off.

I have met so many guys who think they are the biggest fucks in the world.

Boys remember, moderation is key.

Be confident, yet modest, and believe me, the girls will come flocking.

6. PRESENTABLE

Nope, I am not asking you men to be decked in head to toe luxury goods,

but just being presentable and decent looking is the key to making the right impression.
Women all love a men who take a little more effort to dress up for an occasion.

Ditch the slippers once in awhile, put on a clean, fresh shirt and do without your comfy berms once in a while.

Oh yes, my pet peeve.

Facial hair & blemished skin.

For men who has been complimented on your facial hair, go for it!

Keep your moustache or beard or a goatee for all you want.

Just make sure it makes you look good, and not looking like a beggar.

& for men who tend to have blemishes, do take extra effort in cleansing your skin.

A good & basic effort at cleansing your skin everyday really does make a difference.

Add on a moisturizer, or even sunblock etc if you are not the lazy sort.

7. LOYALTY

Men & women alike, we all want to be special to that special someone.

Our competitive nature is inbuilt in us.

We all want to be unique and better than the rest.

Women wants a man who sees the world in her.

Yes, her & only her.

Eyes only for her.

Women all know that she is not the best in the world.

Not the world's prettiest, smartest, sexiest..
We are definitely not delusional, we do not need that.

All we need is for the man in our life to think of us as the best in his world.

And that is all we need.

8. THOUGHTFULNESS

Women just simply love men who pay the extra attention to our likes & dislikes,

and even sometimes the things we say on a daily basis.

We love being taken to our favourite restaurants, eating our favourite food etc.

We just love actions that show you actually care.

So next time, bring your woman out to her favourite place, bring her some flowers,

or just do her favourite activity or hobby together with her.

Believe me, this will give you a high score on her list, anytime..

9. SECURITY- Physical & Financial

You don't have to be a millionaire or someone ultra rich.

Or maybe you do, if you decide to choose someone who only loves you for your riches.

What women are looking for in a men is just plain security where they feel protected & provided.

This is however a very subjective gauge in terms of financial wise.

Have a chat with your significant woman in your life,

and see what she wants for herself, her future & her family for a clearer picture.

You'd be surprise how many women just want the basic roof over her head,

food on the table everyday, & maybe an extra few things here & there.

Physical wise, women all want to feel protected.
From physical harm & danger.

Therefore never be the one putting those two words in her life.

10. UNDERSTANDING

She wants you to know her inside out.

That will then mean that you can love her for who she really is..

With that understanding, there will be no misconception or misunderstandings.

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That is all for my article on the 10 traits that a man should have..

Thought pretty simplistic, I hope it gives a good summary of some important traits

that we women are looking out for in our man.

Ladies, feel free to comment on what traits you are looking for, that I did not mention,

in my comment space below.

Till the next blog post, xoxo

@clarabeltan